Everything starts with you, within. This is a lesson I’ve only recently learned. Before, I always believed in waiting for the external to fall into place before I could be truly happy. Now, I realize that the external is often, determined by what we think, how we act, how we react, and what we believe. Wayne Dyer says “we don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are”. Therefore, if you work on the internal, on the self, on your thoughts, and your beliefs, everything around you will change as well. Peace and happiness come from within, from a life well-lived. Happy Weekend.
This is a quote from the book “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle which is all about the ego, the thought-filled mind and who we are truly and deeply (I’ll give you a hint. Who we are is not related to what we have, what we do for a living or what we’ve accomplished). This book changed my life on a profound level and really altered the way that I look at all life. It awakened me to a higher level of awareness and I recommend it for anyone and everyone on the path to further enlightenment (not saying I’m enlightened but this book definitely brought me one step further in my journey). “The ego wants to want more than it wants to have”. We are constantly in a state of wanting; wanting to have that beautiful pair of shoes, or respect from our colleagues, approval of our parents, to lose that last 5 pounds. We believe that these things will make us happier. Often, this is not true. I’ve gotten that new pair of shoes and been exited for a little while, then moved onto wanting something else. That’s because the ego wants to want, more than it wants to have. What we want, is often what propels us to continue achieving, moving forward, striving and so this “wanting” is not necessarily a bad thing. Just remember that the “having” is overrated, that losing those last 5 pounds won’t change the way you relate to your body, that executing that yoga pose perfectly, won’t make you a happier person after a couple of hours. That the joy is often in the journey and just be aware when you find yourself believing that you “need” something that the ego wants to want more than it wants to have. See if this perspective helps you change the way you spend money, or if it helps to calm you in moments of jealousy and envy, if it helps you to remember that this “wanting” is simply a part of the ego and dependent upon the external. True joy comes from within, not from without.